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Black Beauty In Africa

In every tradition, time, or era the birth of a child is usually celebrated. It is a thing of joy to see one’s up-spring, especially for new mums who have waited for a long time to experience this joy.

In typical Africa society, the male child is given extra respect based on the fact that he will carry the families name. The female, however, will get married and take the name of her husband.

In this regard, baby boys are treated with special interest that fits their role as future fathers. They are not uptight with the keeping and running of the home as it is a woman’s job to do that.

All the male child has to do is provide food for his family, protect them from harm, input authority, get his wife pregnant then he is a good man.

The baby girl, however, is taught how to take care of herself, the home, her siblings, parents, and in some cases the community. In doing this she will make a reasonable wife to her husband. That is, for her to be a good wife, she has to exhibit these traits and that is why there is an African adage that says “a woman’s polite devotion is her greatest beauty”.

The black beauties are sometimes referred to as beautiful flowers. She is the pride of her family and her character portrays her home in every aspect. As early as five, she has learned how to back a baby, bath her younger ones and clean the house. When she is through with her chores, she can join her playmate under the mango tree or at the village square, for some show. Older ladies and males will also be there and that is when the young men who have come of age try to evaluate the girls, by connecting with the one he believes he is in love with.

To get her attention or gain her love, he shows off any good quality he has for example if he is a good warrior, a skilled hunter, a storyteller and above all charming.

Older ladies and males will also be there and that is when the young men who have come of age try to evaluate the girls, by connecting with the one he believes he is in love with.

To get her attention or gain her love, he shows off any good quality he has for example if he is a good warrior, a skilled hunter, a storyteller and above all charming.

Black beauties usually love adornments on themselves especially beads on their head, waist, hands and legs. Although sometimes only the ladies from a royal home or a prestigious family can wear a certain kind of beads or a particular amount of beads on their body – to signify their status.

Some Africans have the believes that the beads possess some kind of powers such as helping fertility, enlargement of the waist to improve their figures, to draw the attention of men and for healing. Beads have always been loved and worn by ladies from time immemorial. It shows off their assets like their curvy hips, long necks, and beautiful legs with grace like movement to follow. As culture varies, so also is the beads ladies wear – the designs also differ from each other too.

The beads the Edo’s from Benin state in Nigeria use is different from the ones a maiden will wear in the northern part of Nigeria. Some cultures, however, prefer wearing beads more than the others example of such tribes which do not like too many beads are the Yoruba’s of the south-west in Nigeria.

There are different kinds of beads worn on different occasions. We have the choral beads which are very expensive and because of the cost, it is usually worn by high chiefs and kings and then we have the rice beads which have the shape of rice – glass beads are shinny in nature and wood beads etc.

A percentage of Africans continue to wear and use beads for adornment, recognition, and also because of the breathless colours embedded in them.

Its significance and the extent to which it is used depend largely on the said tribes, clan, religion or community.

In Islam, the bead used in praying is known as Misbaha (Arabic: مسبحة mas bata ), while for the catholic church which represents a sizable amount of Christians use the rosary in praying which is also made up of beads.

When a female has come of age, mind you, the age of marriage differs from culture to culture: the parents or guidance arranges for her a suitable suitor. In this kind of arrangements, whether the female loves the man or not, is not of uttermost importance. It is believed that feelings will grow when the two are married.

Before the arrangements are finally made, parents check out the background of the prospective suitor. This is done in other for them to be aware or informed of any challenges or epidemic facing the family. For example, they check if the family is suffering from any hereditary diseases and the behaviours of the family in their community.

After all these are done, a certain kind of amounts are paid and the ceremony kicks off. The money paid is called the bride price and as each tribe differs, so also is the bride price paid. In Urhobo for example, the soon to be suitor buys some gifts for the father, mother, sisters and brothers. However, the actual money he pays as the bride price is a hundred and twenty naira (#120). After the elders of the family received this money from him, they will return back a hundred naira (#100). It is believed that this is done to demonstrate to the man that, he came to ask for the hand of their daughter in marriage and they have accepted but also they are not selling her off. That is, in the course of death, she should be returned back to her family. In other traditions, however, it is different.

When she is finally married her duty continues. She takes care of the home and her husband. Her husband is the head of the home and so she must submit to him and respect him in all ramifications even if sometimes it is detrimental to her health or life. There are lots of things the black beauties have to tolerate to make her marriage successful but her joy comes when she gives birth to her own offspring.

The joy of motherhood holds no bounds when it comes to an expectant mother. She protects her kids from everyone and everything one can imagine: she is selfless, unbend-ed, kind, adorable, understanding, and above all sacrifices a lot for her children to make life brighter and better. The mother is like the backbone of the child and that is why her place is in replaceable in the life of the child, society and the world at large.

Do give reverence and accolades to them for they are priceless.

12 Replies to “Black Beauty In Africa

  1. Doesn’t sound hugely different from societal expectations of men and women in most places …

    Hi Dolor nice to meet you and welcome to WP 🙂

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